I’m straight, but i’m no hater. I want to give a congratulations shout out to all of the gay and lesbian folks in Washington, DC who can now get married. The Washington Post reports that couples lined up beginning at 6 a.m. at the D.C. district courthouse, vying to be among the first same-sex couples to apply for marriage licenses. Good for them. Whether it’s mixed race couples, couples from different sides of the tracks, or people who get married and everyone knows they shouldn’t…we all deserve to choose who we walk down the isle with.
When we start picking and chosing who gets what rights and who deserves what freedoms, we get onto a slippery slope. There was a time when African Americans were not free to live where they wanted to live, marry who they loved, or just go have a burger at the local diner just because of the social norms and stereotypes that helped shape American law. Discrimination was the law. Treating one group as lesser than another was the law. I’m so glad to say that discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation when it comes to marriage is no longer the law here in the District.
PS: You better make sure that marriage comes with same-sex divorce too. I’m just saying. LOL
Photo: Michael K. Cole & Jamil Smith Cole. The two jumped over the broom Atlanta Georgia in 2009.
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I read the Washington Post Express a lot in the mornings. It’s got just the right mix of pithy entertainment and actual journalism. Well, today I was in for a real Post-Racial treat.
I don’t know who you are, Roxana Hadadi, but I’ve got to tell you that I think your article to day on Mike Epps was terrible and had some serious problems. Here’s what I didn’t like:
- You mention a story where 2 movie reviewers at a screening for “Resident Evil: Extinction” think that Omar Epps is the movie instead of Mike. That played into the “All black people look alike” myth. You note that they are cousins. That’s no excuse. They look Nothing alike. Nothing. Omar doesn’t even do comedy.You even say, “…Epps is inevitably the guy you immediately laugh at– even though you may first mistake him for his more dramatic relative”. Huh? I’m sorry, no one is mixing those two brothers up.
- The title of this article “Familiar Stranger” made me think of “stranger danger”. So is this black man scary, like a stranger?
- You say that he takes stereotypes about the “funny brother” and “drop-kicks them back in your face, making them absurdly believable wile also hysterically humorous”. Basically your saying that he does the stereotype so well that it’s hysterical. How can you flip something but then end up being the embodiment of it?
- You move on to Epps’s role in “The Hangover”: “Oh, and those comments on roofies — “Just the other day, me and my boy was wondering why they even call them roofies. … Why not floories, right? Cuz when you take them, you’re more likely to end up on the floor than the roof” – may be horribly inappropriate, but they’re also guiltily funny. They’re not as divisive or controversial as the kind of stuff fellow comedians-turned-actors Chris Rock and Dave Chappelle have said, but in a way, Epps — who performs Saturday at DAR Constitution Hall — has a goofy, universal appeal that rivals Rock’s and Chappelle’s natural charisma.”
First of all, are you saying that it’s not controversial to make fun of roofies? It’s the damn date rape drug! Then you call two very intellectual Black comedians “divisive”. I really, really would love to hear your explanation for the use of that word. What do you find divisive about Rock and Chappelle. Perhaps their jokes about race and race relations? Divisive is a whole lot of things in this “Post-Racial” world, huh? Question: Would you call Richard Pryor divisive as well? You say Epps has a universal appeal, but I think Rock and Chappelle are even more universal in their appeal. Of course all of this is just my opinion. Roxanna, you are entitled to yours as well, I just think you’re off.Also you mention Epps’s joke about getting money from white friends and never having to pay it back. Isn’t that a divisive joke?
I dont’ understand where you were going with this article, Roxana. It seems a bit, well…divisive.
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Ok, so when you don’t feel happy and comfortable in your home, apartment or otherwise, it can take a toll on how you feel all day and your overall disposition. I just moved in to an apartment real close to Fort Totten Metro Station and I’m going through hell. I want to get out of the lease and I’ve been there less than 2 weeks. The word is LOUD! Crazy loud. I think my apartment building was made out of tissue paper.
I went through a lil taste of hell trying to get a mortgage on a NE condo (Sept to Nov). The deal fell through when the appraisal came up $13,000 too short. The reason for the shortfall was clear…the appraiser was looking at unequal comps. In the end…deal fell through. It was a painful experience. I was hoping to move into a new apartment and relax. I lived in this building before so I thought things would be ok. The issue is that I used to live on the top floor in a corner unit. Now I’m in a high traffic area of the building and the clientele on my level is very interesting.
I’m trying to work things out and there is a termination clause in the lease. It requires 60 day notice and one months rent though. If I moved and had to comply with that…I’ll be out approx 2000-2300 dollars (depending on when I move). If I have to be out that much money because they don’t have the decency to have a 30 day satisfaction clause (I know, I should have checked before I moved in), I’m going to have to use all my social media skills to make my disdain known. I know the law…no defamation. However, I have the right to air my complaint and I will record the noise and let the public weigh in. Shoot! I think it would be a great experiment and a lot of people have the same complaints about where they live.
They know my complaints. I should find out by tomorrow whether they will let me out in 30 days and if I will have to pay a fee. I’ll keep ya posted.
It’s interesting enough being a Black woman in city “formerly know as” Chocolate City. If you live here you know it’s being rapidly gentrified. No surprise there. However, there is one place in the city that has never been fully “chocolatized”. That is the National Mall. You can thank the tourists for that. It’s funny, I’ve talked to African Americans who were born here who have never ventured down except for school trips back in the day.
Unless Barack Obama is being elected, there is a Civil Rights march reenactment, or so other event that is highly attractive to black folk, the Mall is very vanilla. Don’t get me wrong…I love white folks too. I’m happy about the visitors to the Mall from out of town spend here in the District and what not…blah blah. I just find it funny that when I go to the Smithsonian museums, stroll the mall, or visit the monuments…I see a handful of black people (many of them working security in the buildings). However I can walk 10 min in any direction (except the direction of Georgetown and George Washington U) and the city is Chocolate and balanced again. It’s like going to Virginia. lol
Anyway, I had a “Black moment” at the Lincoln Memorial yesterday. I walked there from Union Station…don’t ask me why, just wanted to walk. I saw about 6 other black people during my walk (no lie). There were hundreds of people out there, mind you (I saw like 6 softball games, lots of people exercising, and tons of tourist groups). I get to the top of the stairs at Lincoln Memorial and watch for 10 min to see how many people notice the “I HAVE A DREAM” engraving noting Martin Luther King’s name and the date of the march. It notes the place on the stairs where he gave his historic speech. Guess how many people noticed it. 2 children.
Now, to their credit it’s not as pronounced as it should be, in my opinion. Hey, I think Obama should do something about that.
I remember when I first visited the Memorial that spot on the steps was something I looked for. The image of King standing on those steps looking out at thousands gathered in the name of civil rights is burned into my psyche as an African American. I wasn’t looking for that engraving, didn’t even know it was there. I just wanted to stand in the place and look out over the reflecting pool and think about that day. Why? Cause I’m black, and moments like that mean a lot to me.
Maybe that’s why not many people noticed the black history upon which they stood yesterday. Maybe I shouldn’t expect them to care, but I do. I find that I’m having more and more of these moments in this so-called “post-racial” America.
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I don’t even want to hear Jeezy’s version any more after hearing this (much love to him and Nas). Grey Hova has to release this. Amazing. My President IS Black! His house is all white! I’m so happy to be in Washington DC right now.
NOTE: Um…black people, is it just me or were there an “uncomfortable” amount of N-words thrown about on this video given the subject matter they are celebrating. *Shaking My Head*
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I am so excited that I live in DC! I will be at the Lincoln memorial front and center. Oh my goodness, Stevie Wonder, Mary J Blige, John Legend, Beyonce, Herbie Hancock, Usher, Will.i.am, Jamie Foxx, and good Lord…Denzel Washington. I will be there. If it was just Stevie Wonder, it would be a treat, but with the line up they have planned it’s going to be a Celebration. Here are the details.
Be there Sunday, January 18th! The event will be free and open to the public.
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Who: Dionne Warwick will host
When: Jan. 20; there will be two balls–the Legends Ball from 8:00 p.m. to 1:30 a.m. and the Urban Ball from 8:00 p.m. to 1:00 a.m.
Where: Wardman Park Marriott, 2660 Woodley Rd NW, Washington, D.C.
Tickets: Legends Ball $450; Urban Ball $350; both $650. See Web site for more information.
Why You Want to Attend: Star-studded cast: Co-hosted by gospel star Yolanda Adams the “Legends Ball” will feature performances by Rodney Atkins, George Clinton, Chaka Khan, Marvin Sapp, The Temptations (Dennis Edwards), Harold Melvin’s Blue Notes, Kirk Franklin, the H.B. Barnum Orchestra, The Caravans and Smokie Norful.
The “Urban Ball”, co-hosted by Big Boi of Outkast, will feature performances by T-Pain, David Banner, Athena Cage, Cedric The Entertainer, The Cheetah Girls, Fantasia, Lil Jon, Monica, Bella Steez and Bobby Valentino.
Presenters include Isaiah Washington, former NBA stars Jalen Rose, Kenny “The Jet” Smith and Reggie Miller, Tracey and Alonzo Mourning and current Washington Redskins defensive end Jason Taylor who recently appeared on ABC’s “Dancing with the Stars.”
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